NVC, or Non-Violent Communications, is a model that Marshall Rosenberg developed to enable people to communicate in difficult circumstances. It’s a way to be compassionate and effective in communicating when times get tough.
If you can pause before reacting to what someone says or does, you can put this tool into service, and make real inroads to better communication.
For example, pause to think about phrasing your response this way:
When I see/hear __________, I feel _________ because I need __________, and what I would like is ___(specific action)____.
The need that is not being met may be what is causing you to feel what you feel. You can do this with others too:
When you said/did ________, did you feel ________ because you were needing ___________?
You might want to give this a try. You may be surprised at how effectively it can open a real dialog and get you back on track.