Love the Hell that You’re In

One of the most striking comments I heard at WDS was from Danielle LaPorte. She was describing her formative years of growing up as “white trash.” I don’t remember the specifics of her childhood, but I was spellbound when I heard her say “You have to love the hell that you’re in before you can leave it.”

You rarely hear someone talk about any reasons to stay in a hell-hole. They do say wherever you go, there you are. If you don’t find the lesson before you escape, the lesson follows you.

Danielle said that if you have made a decision to leave, you need to set a date and honor it or you betray yourself. I come from a long line of people who believe that the promises you make to other people are more important than the promises you make to yourself. You think there’s always going to be time for working out or relaxing later, but that time never comes.

She encouraged us all to make a “Stop Doing This” list. I mentally started the list at WDS. At the top was to stop feeling responsible for a website that the corporate office behind it no longer wanted. Second on the list was to stop being a realtor. Everything has changed about the real estate market and the players since we got into it seven years ago. It had turned into nothing more than a continual monetary vampire. It was no longer fun.

Danielle left us with the thought that “The universe wants you to win.” That was one of the things I found most helpful in overcoming my fear of public speaking – that the audience wants you to be successful. It is much more positive to look at things that way.

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Awesome

While we were watching Neil Pasricha’s TEDxToronto talk about Awesome at WDS I kept thinking that I wanted to share his message with my kids. I decided to show it at my son’s girlfriend Deanna’s birthday celebration. We had already watched it again after we got back from WDS, to make sure I could find it and also to review the message. I wasn’t sure if talking about the finiteness of our lifetimes, suicide, and divorce would be too heavy for a celebration of a 21 year old college senior. We screened it for the birthday bash last Saturday, and it was a huge hit.

The three A’s of Awesome that Neil talks about in his video are

  • Attitude – maintaining a positive attitude even when things happen in our life that we don’t like. To paraphrase Eleanor Roosevelt, we can’t control what happens to us but we can control our reaction to it.
  • Awareness – Neil encourages us all to get in touch with our inner three year old, to continue to see the world through fresh eyes as though we’re seeing everything for the first time. This requires us to be present.
  • Authenticity – I loved the part about Rosey Grier (born on July 14th!) being comfortable enough with who he is to pursue his inner direction.

My daughter Molly has an email group on her website called Awesome, which she hasn’t used since she was in college at Madison. I loved the idea of it – sharing awesome things with awesome people. There was never any sarcasm or mean-spirited comments. All the posts were positive and helpful. Great concept, Mollio!

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Great Bowls O’ Fire! John T. Unger at #WDS

John T. Unger, pic by Armosa Studios

John T. Unger

John T. Unger has clearly led a fiery, colorful life. He shared several personal stories with us in one of his talks at last weekend’s World Domination Summit in Portland, Oregon, some dramatic and maybe even a little crazy sounding, but all authentic aspects of his personal dynamic:

In his youth, he won the championship swingset jump, and he still says his hip is not the same. He’s been attacked by a bald eagle. He and his buddies used to play “Catch the Spear”, tossing hand-sharpened ash poles back and forth for fun (Listen!). He has roller-skated down a Swiss Alp, never having roller-skated before. (He didn’t know how to stop, but once he overtook a moving car he was able to grab on and slow to a stop.) As part of his young adulthood, he has lived in a big-ass red truck under the Roosevelt bridge (“It was nice–it had a queen-size bed in it!”), making music and writing poetry. He once spent ten long minutes with a loaded gun to his head, held by an angry and deranged cab driver, during which John talked him out of pulling the trigger.

As he put it, discerning the difference between an emergency and a problem, and deciding to make the difference between disaster and opportunity are critical skills we should all practice, learn, and refine.

John talked about using the principles of Tai Chi to make use of the momentum of a disaster by riding its energy forward rather than being crushed by it. He did that with the profound gunpoint incident, deciding not to sweat the less important stuff, and instead focusing on his creative artistry.

He has been making art professionally since about 1995, and has made a full-time living as an artist since 2000. His medium is mainly working in “big steel stuff”, creating signature firebowls. A John T. Unger FirebowlSpeaking to our group of ~500 entrepreneurs at the World Domination Summit, Unger said “there are layers of meaning encoded in the materials. Like I’ll use a propane torch to cut flame shapes in a former industrial container for flammable gas, to make a fire bowl you can have a fire in– even a gas fire!”

Indeed, the materials John Unger uses are entirely repurposed. As he has said, “I believe creative re-use has the potential to spark new ways of looking at the world… if one thing can be turned into another, what else can we change? Successful recycled art encourages creativity in others— it’s alchemical, magical, subversive, and transformative by nature.”

On the way to a successful art career, he has been a poet and writer, a tech geek, a print and web designer, illustrator, industrial designer, musician, teacher, actor, set designer and even a paid guru once. Along the way, he has seized business, marketing, and legal aspects of his art, and learned how to master each one.

In his closing remarks, he added, “The first thing about business and marketing as an artist is, people lavish attention and money on you… What’s not to like?? The thing is, the minute somebody wants to buy your stuff, you realize you have at least that much in common– I like my art, they like my art… I’m a big fan of me, so are they…”

John T. Unger — What’s not to like?

Thank you, John!

Visit and see his work at www.JohnTUnger.com

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More T’ai Chi book recommendations

Here’s a list of titles not already on the reading list Julie Cisler brings to T’ai Chi classes:

  • Mastering Yang Style Taijiquan – by Fu Zhongwen, trans. by Louis Swaim
  • T’ai Chi’s Ancestors – by Douglas Wile
  • The Tao of Tai-Chi Chuan: Way to Rejuvenation – by Jou Tsung Hwa
  • On Tai Chi Chuan – by T.Y. Pang
  • T’ai-Chi Ch’uan: Its Effects and Practical Applications – by Yearning K. Chen
  • Tai Chi Chuan: An Investigation into the Methods of Practice – by Hsu Fun Yuen
  • The Taijiquan Classics – by Barbara Davis
  • Lost T’ai-Chi Classics From the Late Ch’ing Dynasty – by Douglas Wile
  • T’ai Chi Classics – by Waysun Liao

Planes, trains, and automobuses

We were eagerly looking forward to riding the Amtrack Empire Builder from Saint Paul, Minnesota to Portland, Oregon for the inaugural World Domination Summit. We had reserved a family sleeping compartment for the two of us  with windows on both sides of the train car, which would’ve saved us 4 nights in the hotel (two each way). I had packed my bags before leaving for work this morning, including post it notes we were planning to use to work on our elevator pitch during the 36 hour train ride. We were even looking forward to sampling the cuisine in the dining car.

Then this morning we found out that the train bridge in Minot, North Dakota is under water due to spring flooding caused by heavy rains. They are evacuating all 10,000 residents. The newly renovated train station is under water. Amtrack has another train, the SW Chief, that goes from Chicago to Los Angeles. But no availability until Friday. We wouldn’t get to Portland until Sunday.

Our remaining options were to drive or fly. Driving 1700 miles over three days is certainly doable, but then you have to turn around and drive back. For a weekend conference, it hardly makes sense. No post-it elevator pitch brainstorming. Lots of South Dakota and Montana. Too little Portland.

So we cashed in our train tickets and got on the first flight to Portland, with a short stop in Phoenix. We’ve already had a crash course in applying “Action Trumps Everything,” demonstrating flexibility and offsetting the disappointment of our imaginary train adventure with more time in Portland.

And if there was anyone from Minot who was planning to attend WDS, our thoughts and prayers are with you.

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Hormel Institute Recommends Plant-based Diet for Cancer Prevention

In an ironic twist, the Austin Minnesota-based Hormel Institute published an opinion recommending a plant-based diet for cancer prevention.

The full article appeared in the February 2011 issue of Nature Reviews Cancer. The authors suggest that the main cancer preventative benefits result from specific phytochemicals in the plant, but they also suggest that each individual may benefit most from a unique combination.

The USDA has even replaced the food pyramid with a new image that shows half a plate of fruits and veggies. Now if they could just get rid of the dairy and make the protein (meat) section smaller.

Pass the veggies!

Exploring the Chart of Inner Luminosity

image This wall hanging at the Mindful Motion Tai-Chi Academy is a symbolic representation of the human body and the spiritual forces that dwell within it. The chart was carved in stone at the White Cloud Temple of Beijing by a Daoist monk named Liu Cheng-yin in 1886. The Daoists believe that qi may be visualized as energy, breath, or luminous spirits. Practicing Qigong keeps the spirits happy and well-nourished, which helps to maintain the health of the body.

These explanations of the Qigong philosophy behind the images on the chart come from The Way of Qigong, by Ken Cohen.

The boy and girl working the water treadmill represent the need to balance Yin (feminine) and Yang (masculine) energy. They also represent the right and left kidneys, which in Chinese medicine are considered reservoirs of sexual potency. The accompanying inscription says “Kidney water reverses its course.” This means that by practicing meditation, the waterlike sexual energy is conserved and made to flow upward, repairing the spine and brain and recharging the body with vitality.

Next we see a man plowing with an ox. The inscription says, “The iron bull tills the earth and sows the gold coin.” This means that Qigong requires the perseverence of a farmer and the stamina of a bull. The earth element, related to the spleen, is also a symbol of qi acquired through a balanced diet and harmonious lifestyle.

The four circular yin-yang symbols suspended above a flaming cauldron represent the lower dan tian, the “field of the elixir,” below the navel. The dan tian is like an alchemal vessel. By practicing abdominal breathing, the internal energy begins to cook. Eventually it “steams,” healing, repairing, and energizing the body. The four yin-yang symbols are radiating energy in all directions.

The weaving maid and the boy standing above her symbolize the unity of Yin and Yang. The weaving maid is Yin, the ability to store energy, to go inward, to maintain tranquility. Inner quiet is a prerequisite for energy cultivation. According to Chinese legend, the weaving maid spins a silken garment out of moonlight, which we see as the Milky Way. Here, the silken garment is the internal energy rising up the spine.

The boy represents Yang, the active and outgoing. He stands in a ring of blood; he is the spirit of the heart and the middle dan tian. According to Chinese legend, the cowherd boy and the weaving maid were once lovers. Because they neglected their duties the ruler of the heavens, the Jade Emperor, changed them into stars at opposite ends of the sky. One night a year, the seventh day of the seventh month, celebrated as Lover’s Day in China, the lovers cross the heavens and meet. In the Chart of Inner Luminosity, a bridge of qi joins the distant lovers. Thus Qigong means to unify internal energy. The boy also represents spiritual wisdom, innocence, simplicity, and youthful vitality regained through Qigong practice.

We see the stars of the Big Dipper constellation protruding from the cowherd’s crown. This means that a Qigong student should absorb qi from the stars and seek harmony with the cosmos. Daoists believe that the Dipper handle is like a lightning rod, drawing qi from the stars into the Dipper bowl. During the course of the year, the handle of the Dipper makes a 360-degree rotation. Since it thus points to all the stars, it is a reservoir of astral power.

The forest is the wood element and the liver. It represents the largest organ in the body and thus has a prominent place in the Chart. The liver, according to Chinese medicine, controls the even flow of qi. A healthy “forest” is extremely important for success in Qigong. However, we cannot improve our health by focusing on only one organ exclusively. Kidney-water helps the liver-wood to grow. Wood provides the fuel for heart-fire. Heart-fire creates ashes and nutrients that are necessary for the farmer to reap a good harvest from the earth (spleen). The earth produces gold and metal, the element and energy of the lungs. Metal becomes a molten liquid, feeding the kidneys. The organs thus form a circle of mutual interdependence.

The twelve-tiered pagoda represents the throat and the back of the neck. During meditation, qi is pumped from the sexual center, up the spine, passing the middle dan tian and internal organs, to the throat, continuing over the crown and then down the front of the body. The throat is an area where the qi is easily stuck, a result of poor posture, tension in the neck, or the concentration required to keep qi flowing upstream. From a Western psychological perspective, qi may be impeded at the “pagoda” because of difficulties in self expression and communication. The pagoda may also symbolize the importance of having a high vantage point, of not getting bogged down by details.

To the left of the pagoda we see a rectangular pool of water with the word “drawbridge” written next to it. The pool is the mouth and saliva. The bridge is the tongue. The pool provides water that prevents the mouth from drying out during breathing exercises. Saliva also absorbs qi during meditation; the meditator swallows saliva periodically and imagines it dropping into the lower dan tian, replenishing it. The tongue forms a bridge between two major meridians, the Governing Channel that follows the spine and extends over the crown, ending at the upper palate, and the Conception Channel that begins at the tip of the tongue and descends to the perineum. Touching the tip of the tongue to the upper palate closes the circuit so qi can circulate and flow without leaking.

Above the pond are two circles, representing the two eyes and the sun and moon. The Qigong student closes his eyes and turns the light inward, illuminating the inner world. By practicing self-awareness, he becomes a sage such as Lao Zi, the meditating figure above the right eye, or Bodhidharma, the founder of Zen Buddhism, the figure standing under Lao Zi with up stretched arms. The presence off Lao Zi and Bodhidharma, esteemed founders of Daoism and Zen, signify the importance of meditation as the means to awaken intuition and wisdom. They also represent the fundamental unity of different spiritual paths, all leading to the same goal.

Continuing up the spine, we see the head as a series of sacred peaks. Mountains are funnels that draw down stellar and heavenly energy; this energy is concentrated in caves. Daoists go to mountain caves to meditate and commune with heavenly power.

See https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Neijing_Tu for more information on this diagram.

Cultivate Your Inner Hayseed

One of the most complicated and intelligent people I know chose hayseed as his screen name. It bothered him when people assumed that he was a bumpkin because he chose to live in the country. The meaning I think he identified with the most would be “A simple, unsophisticated person.”


Tom Kooy said it most eloquently:

A profound loss.  An amazing man—brilliant, versatile, a renaissance man of the highest order.  He was selfless, magnanimous, generous, and the true “salt of the earth”—Gary shared with all of us a wisdom, a work ethic, and a form of leadership and mentoring that has shaped each of our
lives.

I personally owe him so much…and his mentoring and advocacy continues, where I have been so rewarded by knowing Gary, and all he did for me and my career, as I have sought to pay forward that generosity to others along the way…giving others an opportunity to grow, to shine, and only because he did that for me.  That’s a true legacy.

Gary, you will be deeply missed!

When Gary hired me to work at the Bureau of Criminal Apprehension, one of the things he said that made a lasting impression was “When you go home at the end of the day, you’ll feel good about making a difference and making the world a better place.” That is a good day at work, indeed.

Spit!

Indignation : anger at perceived (or supposed) affronts. You perceive it, so you hold on to it. Something bad may have happened to you. There is a Chinese proverb that says “the year reveals the day’s mystery.” You may not realize until a year later what bothered you about something that happened today. This can lead to resentment and stops the flow of qi when you are circulating the energy during the microcosmic orbit (small universe). These feelings of resentment most often are held in the solar plexus.

4 Tongue Positions during Meditation

  1. Down and flat into jaw, keep tip against teeth. Where it is when you breathe from your chest (flight/fight/freeze) when your adrenals kick in. Keep your tongue here during cleansing breath – the Taoists called this Buffalo Breath.
  2. Up and flat against the roof of your mouth. Engages your diaphram. Tongue up,breath down. Tongue down, breath up.
  3. Tip up against palate, pointing towards your sinuses- increases saliva, increases circulation (beginning of meridian) .
  4. Tip back to beginning of soft palate at 45 degree angle. Key is to stay relaxed. Connects to energy center in third eye (pineal gland).

Safety -> Begin & end at the same place
1. Tan-ti’en: pick a number, start there at lower tan-ti’en,do repetitions
2. Come back to your body
3. Place : return to the same place

Three Part Ending – do the ending in the reverse order you went in

Homework: spit! Notice your saliva before, during, and after meditation. Taste, texture, amount – it changes during your meditation (Alchemy!) Mantak Chia wrote a whole book on spit, called Golden Elixir.

 

It Takes Lots of Practice

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Dorothy Hopkirk Ackerman passed away March 10th. Her memorial service was held on March 19th. She was 91 when she died. She and Gene Ackerman had been married almost 70 years. One of the people who spoke at the service was a vibrant young black woman who had been one of Dorothy’s hospice workers. She stood up and described how Dorothy looked at Gene with such loving eyes, even when Gene was being difficult. She had asked Dorothy how she was able to do that, and Dorothy replied “It takes lots of practice.”

It’s easy to love someone when they’re being kind and generous, wooing you or otherwise making you feel like you’re the center of the universe. It’s much more difficult to love someone when they’re being mean, stubborn, attacking you or making you feel worthless.

Being a mother is great practice for learning how to love. My mother was 22 when I was born. She used to tell people it was like babysitting, except the parents never came home. That’s the problem—you need to already know how to love before you’re qualified for the job of parent. It is pretty easy to love a baby, especially when they smile at you and look at you like you are the most amazing person they have ever seen. Babies don’t know how to do anything other than look at people with love in their eyes.

It takes lots of practice to remember how to look at someone with love in your eyes when they’re being difficult.

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